Honey, please don't waste your life on things you cannot change. Life's too short for that. As trite as it sounds true beauty comes from within. We all have things about ourselves that we wish we could change. When I was a teen I was several inches taller than my friends and always felt gawky when I stood beside them. I never dated a guy that was more than an inch or so taller than me and I had, and still have. an @ss that's so flat it looks like my butt is going in the opposite direction of my britches! Now that I'm in my 50's I wish I'd had had somebody tell me that true beauty comes from within ourselves. It really does you know. How you treat others and feel about yourself are almost like an invisible broadcast of your inner self.
Find something about your exterior that you're proud of such as your, smile, eyes, posture, skin clarity, tone of your voice etc.....and make that your focus point. Don't let it be your boobs or butt - go for something more subtle. If you have a beautiful smile or eyes then always make sure that they are at their best when you're in public. Lovely hands? Keep your hands soft with lotion and your nails groomed. You don't need talons.
Not all white girls can put their hair up in ponytails. Their hair is too thin or fine to stay up or won't keep a style etc...... What you notice are the ones that you envy. The next time you're out and about at the mall or something pay more attention to white girls and their hairstyles. You'll be surprised.
Be confident in yourself and what you wear. Others will see your confidence and be far less likely to judge.
If you don't like/love you for who you are others will find it difficult as well. Remind yourself everyday "I know I'm somebody 'cause God don't make no junk!"
I'm a middle aged woman who wished I knew then what I know now.